At Your Own Pace

Change happens. In most cases, it is unexpected; an auto accident, loss of a job, an illness diagnosis, a spouse reveals a secret...the list goes on.

We all deal with change differently. Loving Self during these times can be a bit trying to say the least. Blame, regret, anger, sadness are some of the first thoughts to run rampant in our minds. In an attempt to find comfort, guidance from friends and family is sought. For some, standing there with the viewpoint of not knowing what to say or do, they offer advice and stir up more painful emotions while Self-image and confidence effortlessly slip away. They say things like, "Get over it." "Good he's gone." "Smile, life could be worse." Or more detrimental, "Buck up and put on your big girl panties." How does this help? How is this nurturing? Show me the love in those statements! You can't find it, because it doesn't exist in those clusters of words.

It's important to feel the emotions swirling uncontrollably in that moment. If you are hurting - feel it, experience it and allow it to be. Know that this is just a moment and by letting the emotions to take their natural course you will heal. Trust that you will heal. And, by golly, experience the situation as an observer. Honestly look at it without hiding, burying, avoiding what is actually happening. Don't try to see the other person's point of view. Don't waste precious time attempt to sort it all out. It is what it is, so be it.

By learning to be the observer, it has been my experience to witness and understand that this situation provided me the golden opportunity to explore ways to strengthen Self; to love Self; define Self-love more clearly.

What makes ME feel happy?
What brings joy to MY day?
What can I do for myself that I wish someone would do for me?

Take the time to feel your emotions freely and without judgment. Be compassionate to the loving person you are and allow this situation to arouse the desire for healing. Only you know what is best for you. Look within, your answers are there. Even if for two minutes, be still - quiet - and listen to your spirit say, "I love you."

You Can Change It.

Careful of your words as they mirror perceptions and beliefs. What is it you are saying when you tell your friends that you'll never meet the man/woman of your dreams, or that you'll never have enough money to go on vacation to Barbados, or when you express your frustrations about having to go to work on Monday? We manifest, bring forth into our reality, situations that we believe are true.

How can you find the man/woman of your dreams if you believe he/she doesn't exist? How will you ever afford a vacation when you believe you don't have enough money? How can you enjoy your job when you believe that it's an inconvenience to your schedule. Seriously, what else would you be doing with your time?

"Until today, you may not have realized that you are totally able, perfectly prepared, fully capable of doing the very thing you have convinced yourself you could not do. Just for today, be devoted to doing just one thing that will help to convince you." -Iyanla Vanzant

By feeling at peace and dipping your big toe in the pool of joy, you can alter your perception of any situation including those that are causing you frustration, uneasiness, disappointment, discomfort and a sense of lack. Don't like how something makes you feel - change it. Yes, it's that simple. Change it.

Let's take work and use it as an example. You have been taught, convinced, that Mondays are to be the most dreaded day of the week. What if your work week started on Friday? Your preconceived notion is that Fridays are the end of the work week and a time of celebration. Will you now dread Fridays and Mondays? What if your work schedule does not maintain regularity? What then? You dread every day? Oh my, honey, this is not a way to be alive.

So how can you change it? Retrain your thoughts - beliefs. If your situation is horrific, change it by exploring other options. Find reasons to enjoy life and the things you do in it. Search for things are are grateful for and make a list. Life is how you perceive it; there's no getting around it.

Careful of Your Thoughts

Perfect day to write about the statement, "Careful what you wish for, you just might get it." According to Doreen Vitrue, a series of one's means to "Monitor your thoughts carefully, and be sure to only think about what you want, not what you don't want. This sequence is a sign that there is a gate of opportunity opening up, and your thoughts are manifesting into form at record speeds."*

Today is 1-11-11. I cannot tell you what my thoughts were at 11:11 this morning as I was in the process of establishing another blog titled Pinky Region Of Michigan. Most likely I was thinking about the different subjects to write. I think. Maybe... Or was I letting the dog outside?

There are times when we get so caught up in making sure we do "IT" right that relaxing and enjoying the moment seems out of reach and we feel as though we are sabotaging our good fortune. The perception matters. How we think of ourSelf and others directs beliefs like a compass. Are you thinking they like you or not? Did you only notice the fun and excitement or did you belief they were leaving you out because you weren't the center of their attention? Oh the ways our minds play tricks on us.

I did an experiment just to see what would happen to my perception. I quit watching television shows that didn't resonate with me or showed situations I didn't want in my life. The news was the first to go. Programs of crime, deceit and marital discord quickly followed. To tell the truth, I feel much better about life. As I moved through this experiment, I started spending less time with people that spoke ill of others, bathed in drama and basically carried an attitude I felt was undesirable. Same result! I feel much better about life.

Life is meant to feel good, be full of joy and bliss. How are your thoughts directing your perceptions?

*Healing with the Angels written by Doreen Virtue, Ph.D., page 160

Healing Touch

The awareness of healing touch is growing. Once thought of as something only intuitive energy healers (Reiki Masters, Flowing Liquid Light Healing Practitioners and etc.) offered, people are beginning to understand how they too contribute to the energy flow.

Energy emanating from the heart is of the purest love and light. It cannot cause harm to anyone. When the transference comes from the ego, then ultimatums, judgments, conditions and so on interfere with the authenticity of the love and can be harmful. It is the deep-rooted intention that dictates the flow.

We are all intuitive energy healers. The firm hand placed on the shoulder of a friend needing courage provided the person with more strength. The nurturing hug you gave to your child just before bedtime brought comfort and security. And the list goes on...

Think the healing touch concept is hogwash? How did you feel the last time someone who cared held your hand? It was an extension of love. Nothing more, nothing less.

Unexpected Christmas Gift

Last Wednesday as we sat facing each other, he cut me off before I could complete my statement, "I'm an easy target for them because I won't fight back. I will not participate in their meanness; there's no reason for it. It's only meant to hurt people in a feeble attempt to feel better about themselves." I sighed, "(They've) cut me down to my core with their wicket words, manipulations and need to continue their nasty dramas. They destroyed my Self-image and now I'm rebuilding..."

"Why would you want to use the same bricks and 2x4's?" he interrupted. "It'll only collapse again. If it didn't work the first time..." he paused for a moment, "You have the opportunity to begin from the ground up. You have changed - evolved - and what once served you, no longer does. Do you really want to rebuild the old you?"

"Nobody is superior, nobody is inferior, but nobody is equal either. People are simply unique, incomparable. You are you, I am I. I have to contribute my potential to life; you have to contribute your potential to life. I have to discover my own being; you have to discover your own being." -Osho

On the night of December 25th, as I lay with my head on the pillow staring into the darkness of nightfall, I heard his voice again - reminding me. "You have the opportunity to begin from the ground up." The heartbreak I endured Christmas morning caused me to notice things about mySelf I was unaware of - habits, taught patterns, learned beliefs of Self.

As the event was occurring, guilt, rage, anger, self-demolishing thoughts filled my mind. For hours after the altercation, I remained in the destructive mode; tearing every shred of my being to smithereens. I'm not worthy.

"Oh my! Did I really think that?"

With that one sentence, I slammed on the brakes to stop the descent into the spiraling out of control vortex that consumed me. An awareness deeply rooted within my soul was forced out of the shadows. I gathered internal strength to build a new foundation - reaffirming the person I truly am. Blessing the situation for the awareness it brought forth, it was released with love and light. IT was let go without strings attached. In the silence of my still mind, I send love and gratitude to all that have shown me their perceptions of me. It is not mine to alter; there is nothing to fix. It is as it is. Everyone has the freewill to develop, maintain and nurture their beliefs of themselves and others. Someday they will see the real me. Until then, I cherish who I am.

I love you. I thank you. All is forgiven. Blessings to all.

Slumbering Emotions

Dreams are just another way for us to explore and release unresolved emotions. Deep within there may lay in waiting hidden secrets of things we've either done or witnessed and, in some cases, feelings that percolate up from a space we had no idea existed.

As the details of the slumbering memories fade as I awaken and merge more into this day, there is still a part of me that is hurting, sad and regretful. It involved family, forgiveness and love.

"If you haven't cried, your eyes can't be beautiful." -Sophia Loren

When you wake from a dream that shakes you at the core, and emotions are very tender, do you do everything you can to forget them or do you put forth the effort to "react"? By that I mean, when you awaken, are you willing to cry and release the residual emotions? Do offer forgiveness to Self and all involved? Do you take a moment to say, "thank you" to the awareness? Can you, or are you willing, to say to Self, "I love you unconditionally"?

Witnessing the Alignment

The key is Awareness.

The answer is Love.

And life is meant to be full of Giggles.

It never seizes to amaze me when pondering thoughts fill my mind as I awaken from slumber. Life is continuously evolving. Mind-sets shift; old beliefs fall off to the side when new one materialize; and then, then you finally understand the messages you've been given over and over and over...

The intent is Compassion.

The focus is on Blissful Joy.

And life is meant to be full of Precious Moments.

Situations present themselves in our day-to-day lives for us to notice. When ignored, they become louder and larger until the words, "Oh, now I get it," are vocalized in one way or another.

The action is Trust.

The integrity is Divine.

And life is an Alignment with Oneness.

Way of Thinking

The conversation took a turn that I truly wasn't expecting. Walking back into the room, my friend says to me, "Don't take this the wrong way, but..."

Unfamiliar with Abraham-Hicks, I played several clips posted on the internet for her to hear. In my excitement of introducing another person to the concept of seeing how our thoughts affect our perceptions, manifestations - our lives - I was shocked to hear her compare Ester Hicks with a dangerous cult leader. The charisma, the repeating of certain words, ability to get people to listen and follow instruction; it was not for her.

Right now there are millions of us artisans, in one way or another, aspiring to encourage others to explore Self-empowerment. Each one has a message, a reminder and on occasion something that sparks a new way of 'being'. Inspiration to create a desired life is one of the most powerful gifts a person can give from the heart.

There are many artisans that'll never know, understand, witness the impact of their work. And that's perfectly fine. Sure, to have the ego stroked and told how wonderful our works of art are offer more encouragement; it's not the real reason behind the passion.

If you think about it, why do we do certain things that make us feel good? Okay, silly question. But is it? Those with the set intention of highest good for all, with harm to none including the Self-help gurus, channellers of non-physical beings, friends, family, and even co-workers all share generically the same message: Love Self.

Personally I would rather learn more about the teachings to look in the mirror and say, "I love you" instead of "Damn you're fat and ugly." I'm all for having the awareness of how positive thinking can, and will, affect what we manifest. Abraham-Hicks' message is clear, "Ask And It Is Given."

Evolving Into Peace

Words laced with poisonous venom fill the minds of many as the ballots have been tallied and the election results published. Like a vicious cycle of a dog chasing its tail, it doesn’t matter who wins or loses, few will accept the outcome and the perception of government will remain the same.

A belief is a belief that you keep thinking. Plain and simple. If you continue to believe that government is corrupt and has filled with lying bastards who are only lining their pockets with special interest money; guess what, that’s what you’ll get. It is the Law of Manifestation.

For your own personal sake, turn the angry thoughts to compassion, forgiveness and support. Yes. Let go of the fear or knowing that they will ‘screw it up’ for what you seek will be found. Start by acknowledging the elected official has a job that few are willing to pursue. Support their courage. Forgive them for (what you believe to be) previous bad judgments. We are human and will make mistakes; it’s how we learn. Compassion to give them the understanding in knowing they have their lessons to experience.

Let go of the fear (evolving from the election). Convert it to compassion and forgiveness. Support the individuals (everyone involved) in a loving manner. This is a pivotal point in how we perceive elected officials and our emotions/vibrations will impact our future.

A belief is a belief we keep believing. Fear can evolve into Peace...if you allow it.

Tap Dancing Fingertips

When's the last time you wrote an email to a co-worker, lover, mother and the information was misinterpreted and feelings were hurt? Or worse, you never find out.

The more technology advances, the less we communicate with each other. Something is missing. We send emails, text messages to cell phones in the middle of the night, instant message via the internet, post a quick note on a friend's social media page; but to me that's only providing a non-emotional exchange of information. And I suppose, some would believe it's easier to deliver news without having to witness the other person's reaction.

How did we evolve into being so unattached that we cannot find the time to talk to a friend face to face? When we communicate it's our vibration - the energy - defining our meanings, our feelings, our intent, our Truth. By putting up the artificial barrier, the emotions are blocked from delivering the message originally set forth. Oh sure, there are the cute little smiley faces and symbols, and bold words typed in red ending with an exclamation mark used to convey purpose. It's not the same.

It's become too convenient to tap on the computer keyboard and send a quick note, saying, "Hi, how are you?" instead of dialing their phone number and speaking to the friend. A quick note that reads "I miss you" will not have the same impact as seeing the individual and telling them in person. All the intended receiver of the message sees is the end result of your finger tap dancing on the keyboard leaving the tone of voice silent and worse yet, the emotions unfelt - unheard. No matter the advancement in technology, it cannot interpret vibrations.