The Things We Say & Do

It takes courage to be vulnerable. It's the fear of giving friends, family, enemies and complete strangers the opportunity to hurt us in ways we believe would be detrimental to our well-being that prevents us from being Authentic.

A very common line repeated as if a personal mantra: “I'm my own worst critic.” Sad, but true, many participate in the practice of being the one attacking Self. Who knows the painful pressure points better than anyone else? To protect our internal Self, we build walls and dig motes to remove all access to our spirit by locking it behind an impenetrable gate. But why? To keep everyone out and to prevent future heartbreak? We go through our trials and tribulations to learn more about our own desires.

“Happiness is not a matter of events; it depends upon the tides of the mind.”
-Alice Meynell

The keys to our Self-imposed gate is within reach. The illusion is we cannot unlock it; because what if...... Look into the eyes of the person you see in the mirror and say, “I love you.” Say it with compassion and respect. Release your inhibitions. And yes, you can do this! Strengthen the relationship with Self. Be your own best friend and the person you want to be in this lifetime. Take yourSelf out on a date and do the things you always wanted to try. Don't be afraid. Shatter the mental phrases that hold you back by questioning whether it's worthy of 'truth'.

When you step back from the situation you might find fear is not the root cause of your hesitation; it's being vulnerable to the unknown.

Please note: It was very important that I share this message today. I don't know why or for whom it is intended. I am trusting my intuition. As I walked in the woods yesterday afternoon, the subject of vulnerability entered my thoughts and its affect on people. The flip side to this conversation is – “When you see someone in a vulnerable state, what do you do?”

Quote for the Day

"Where you may see death and decay, I see life and love."
-Cindy Kochis

Behind Closed Eyes

The words 'Define it. Write it out. Draw it out.' lay effortlessly in blue ink as I began my journal entry at 6:21 this morning. As I listened and penned my thoughts, the following phrase was on paper before I realized it: “Don't question. Don't hesitate. Follow your heart. Feel your inner wisdom. Be your Authentic Self.” My first quote of the day (edited version, of course).

As I began to write a current list of goals, the kitchen timer went off for the dog food I was cooking for my Siberian husky. Stirring the rice, beef, vegetable and herb mixture, a message channeled in and knew it was vital for someone.

“How can you judge someone when you cannot experience the thoughts, emotions behind closed eyes?”
-Cindy Kochis 4-2010

One thing I trust is my intuition. It is not important if I don't know who the message is for and even why. What is important is that I don't bottle it up in fear that I might offend someone. Those that react with the greatest resistance are at the beginning stages of change (personal growth). This is meant for them. Otherwise it serves as a gentle reminder; an 'ah-ha' thing-a-ma-bopper.

The message was so strong that I stopped journalling to post it on FB. As the computer dialed for internet connection, the words “Compassion will heal ALL ills” filled and warmed my heart. To be compassionate, as used in this statement, is not about having pity on a person, however to be discerning. Remove your judgment with an open mind and heart and appreciate what you interpret the emotions they might be feeling in that moment. It is not possible for you to fully know how they feel, as our life experiences are as different as we are individual. Imagine how stress-free our lives could be if we stopped judging people and adored them for, well, them. Seriously. As you interact with people today, notice how we judge (and yes, we all do it – some to an extreme versus others) those around us or brought up in conversation. Did you feel envy or compassion, love or denial, joy or embarrassment?

Well, I think it's time for me to go back to finishing my journal entry for today. REMEMBER ~ Compassion (discernment) will heal ALL ills.

Cut & Paste Dreams With Directions

I'll be honest, prior to creating my first Dream Board I thought they were a bit juvenile. There I sat at the dining room table a year ago with a group of friends feeling absolutely silly cutting up magazines, calendars and gluing the pieces onto poster board until I realized what was happening. I was setting goals. Me set goals? I know I was surprised too. Creating goals to me then was like taking an exam with only two minutes left on the teacher's clock when the pencil lead snaps under the pressure – and my future depends on my answers.


I began the creative project by sectioning off areas for home/family, vacation, my business, and personal growth/spirituality. Breaking it up into groups allowed a visual for what parts of my life were unbalanced. In my business box had pictures of money in it. Looking at it (a year later), I realized I didn't specify how I was going to earn or receive the cash. It was undefined. Adding a “list of action” would have been wise; laying down a foundation from which to grow. The list could have been used as a road map. I willy-nilly chose to select beef on the menu and hoped the waitress brought back a thick slice of medium-rare prime rib smothered in sauted onions with garlic mashed potatoes on the side next to the streamed green beans topped with butter, salt and pepper.

“A goal is to have a destination in mind. Desires plotted out like a road map to reference when you feel lost.”
-Cindy Kochis

To create your own, start with poster board or a blank piece of paper (any size, type, color). Ah, the blank slate ~ visual silence. Allow the innocents of the child within to explore the pages of magazines, newspapers and other printed material. Daydream about the things you would like to bring into your life; no matter how out of reach you currently think it is. Cut and paste things you wish for onto the Dream Board. Don't stop there, write a general list next to it of how you plan to accomplish the goal. Overtime, as you look at it, you will find yourself figuring out ways to define your aim on the target. Narrowing the focus on these desires get the mojo movin' faster and attracting those experiences, items, people into your life.

What is on your Dream Board?

Pieces of Egg Shell Everywhere

I have a magical garden. It was built as I emotionally healed and has been maintained with unconditional love. The flowers outside in my back yard have witnessed my tears, my joys and all emotions in between, and yet, they come back every year. I think they like to watch me grow.

In an email conversation with a dear friend, she wrote these words, “And when it comes to doing healing work, maybe it's time to stop trying to heal people and instead, time to use your training to help people align with their healed truth?” I read the line too many times to count. For those that don't already know, I am an intuitive healer. Actually, to tell the truth, not many people know. This is my cracking out of my shell, takin' the risk, jumping off the metaphysical cliff and whatever cheesy line fits appropriately. It is time for me to stop hiding behind the curtain and be of service. People have a way of finding me and telling me their issues, problems - their life story. It happens in the grocery store, the post office, at work, and the list continues. When I was a teen, this used to bug me to no end. I would think, “Do I really need to know this? Do I look like I care?” I'd offer some encouraging words to be nice and off they would go. Years later, a friend helped me explore my abilities. It didn't take long for me to attract the things in my life to help me become more 'aware'.

I would like to share with you a portion of my correspondence; it will help you understand my goal and intent as an intuitive healer. “From the beginning of my journey in this life of channelling, premonitions, and healing, I've not wanted to tell people of their future, for the future is forever evolving through our own free will. Of course I went to you to take a peak at "my" future, not so much to know it, but to know that I would be in a better place than I was at that moment ~ that everything would be okay, happier, less painful. I needed the reassurance. Funny thing is, I've held off in doing any readings for people because I didn't want to disappoint people, break their hearts like when things I was told would happen didn't work out in what I considered a timely manner. Hence, my novels. According to channeled readings received over the years, I should have one novel published and another almost done. MY LESSON... I lived and experienced what I don't want to present to others and shown why. I want to help people with 'today'. What you wrote is what my current blog is all about ~ helping people align with their healed truth. That is how I want to assist people ~ bring awareness to Self ~ to enlighten them so they may see on their own how their words and actions impact not only others, but themSelf ~ remind them of the love that is within each of us ~ AND, there is no right, there is no wrong; there is no positive, there is no negative (other than with electricity)... I see how I was; I see how others feel and the emotions they use to express in an attempt to feel better about themselves and life (for example, drama)... I want to (metaphorically) hand them the tools as they are leaning under the hood of their car saying to themselves, "if I tweak this and adjust that... this engine should purr like a kitten." (Can ya tell I've had many mechanics in my life?) You're right - I don't want to fix 'em. I am an intuitive healer assisting those that are ready to align with Self in a non-judgmental, unconditionally loving and healthy manner. Thank you. I needed to say that.”

I'm certain when I am finished posting this blog entry and take a walk out in my garden I will hear the daffodils applaud. There is so much for us to love, learn and appreciate about Self.
Namaste'

Posting Emotions

We are exceptionally hard on ourselves at times. Want proof? Be as an observer of any social internet networking site entries. Remove yourself from your personal point of view and non-judgmentally feel the emotions people express about themselves and/or situations. Notice how your emotions change? Do you feel joy, love, support, or pain, sorrow, loneliness...

"Keep doing what you're doing and you'll keep getting what you're getting."
-Anon.

It it vital that we feel our emotions without sweeping them under the rug in the other room. When we experience one sense of being we can move towards the next belief we wish to explore. Wonder how law of attraction works? We manifest into our lives the things, people, situations we yearn for to gain all knowledge. That's it. There is no right way, no wrong way. It just is. It is why we are here.

This post was inspired by the wide range of posts I read only minutes ago. One person wrote how grateful she was for hot water, another mentioned going to bed alone as always, and so forth. As you witness their words, pay attention to your own. What are you saying? What are you feeling? Are you in the moment or stuck on a past issue? What wisdom is being acquired?

Feel the Words

What are you really afraid of? The loss of a relationship, getting fired from your dreaded job, not having enough chocolate stashed, whether or not they like you, am I good enough, pretty enough... the list can go on and on and on. Seriously, what is the root of your fear? Now ask yourself, “How do I emotionally feel about myself?”

As divine beings, we communicate with ourselves and others through emotions ~ not words. Try to explain how and what LOVE feels like and when, where. Now do the same with the words JOY, SORROW, FORGIVENESS and PEACE. We have a tendency to toss the words into our vocabulary like candy in the Fourth of July parade without really appreciating the energy given/received.

Desiring change in my life, it has taken time to understand, and acknowledge, the repetitive patterns flowing in and out of my experiences. They are situations I've created through the laws of attraction to show in which areas I need to love, forgive and release the fear from within.

Unrealistic limitations etched in our thoughts and beliefs are reinforced by the chatter of our monkey mind's. By feeling the emotions, allowing them to be as they are in this moment, you can begin to heal any issue/situation. If you find yourself wanting to adjust the emotion to be what you wish it were, relax, and allow it to be as it is. Easier said than done if you believe that it's got to be difficult. I'm finding it to be simple. Yes, simple. Let go of any expectations and be in the moment.

How do you emotionally feel when you say 'I love you' to your pet, your mother, your sibling, your best friend, your Self? Notice the different definitions to the same word Love.

What Statement?

There is power within that is undeniably ours. No one can alter it unless we allow them too. We hold the keys even when we feel we've misplaced them. Each person has a unique set of beliefs that are always evolving.

If you constantly claim “I'm always late”, you believe you will arrive after your desired or expected time because you believe the statement to be true. “I am always late.” Shift your thoughts by stating, if only quietly to yourself, “I arrive at the right time.” The point is not to feel that you have follow any rules or memorize the Law of Attraction. Challenge yourself to explore a new way of thinking. Take dieting, for example. A common line most of us have said at one point or another is, “You want what you can't have.” The sad part is, we believe it. The one who believes they need to loose weight will say, “I can't eat (fill in the blank).” Why not? Oh, yeah, because of the belief that it will cause you to gain six pounds just by looking at it. Heaven forbid if you had the power within to add weight that way!

Release the burden of negative and self-defeating thoughts and exchange them for those that uplift your spirits. Who wants to walk around all day with their head hung low? Not I. I believe that life if full of magic and wonderment. “I believe the power within me radiates brighter each moment.”

What are some of the statements you have altered to feel better about yourself?

Provoking Insight

There is no doubt that we seek answers out side of ourselves. Turning to friends and family (even complete strangers) for advice and suggestions on how to live our own lives when we already intuitively know what's best for us. Some find the idea of sitting quietly and listening to the inner voice of love, our true Self, to be less exciting then going to the Gynecologist for a pap smear.

“The moralist always judges, the aware person never judges. He lives in a nonjudgmental consciousness. He simply watches and understands.” - OSHO

Oracle, meditation and tarot cards bring a bit of insight when used with the intent of “For the Highest Good for All with harm to none.” There are times when the messages drawn are unwelcome because the perceived guidance drawn is less than in our favor. Wait, isn't that why we sought the advice? In order to change, we have to look at the cause to encourage the desired affect.

Each Monday, I drawn one card from the “Discover the Buddha” Meditation to Meet the Buddha Within by OSHO and leave it propped up on my desk as a daily reminder. The card drawn fits perfectly into what is happening in my life in this moment. Today's card reads, “A mind beyond judgments watches and understands.” As we go forth on our paths of enlightenment non judgment is one of those things that, at times, seems pretty easy and without issue... and occasionally we find ourselves pre-judging someone based on opinions we were taught by another person and or society.

This week observe your thoughts. Are you consciously or subconsciously judging? Share with us your Ah-ha moments.

Quote for Today

“You suppose you are the trouble
But you are the cure
You suppose that you are the lock on the door but you are the key that opens it
It's too bad that you want to be someone else
You don't see your own face, your own beauty
Yet, no face is more beautiful than yours.”

-Rumi